Happiness and Fetish Articles Up

How BDSM Can Help You Find Self-Acceptance Via Happiness.org 

Coming to grips with being kinky when you’ve been raised in a religious or very conservative household isn’t easy. When sex is shamed, let alone any exploration outside of missionary style intercourse, finding out what’s even hot can be a challenge. Yet most of the kinkiest people I know have come from these sorts of family and societal dynamics. Many find self-acceptance through BDSM.

 

A Guide to Choke Play & Orgasm Control via fetish.com

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Can cutting off oxygen-rich blood to the brain really make your orgasms better?! We’ve asked author Sienna Saint-Cyr to share her experiences with us on choking, asphyxiation, and orgasm control!

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Yoga for Happiness 2/3 – Gratitude Yoga via happiness.org

The second in the series of ‘yoga for happiness’. I loved this one. And all the understanding that came with my research on oxytocin and gratitude has changed my life for the better. ❤

Screen Shot 2017-08-09 at 9.41.18 PMGratitude is a catalyst for happiness. When we are grateful for what we have we stop focusing on the things we lack.

…release the feel good chemical Oxytocin. The same chemical that positive touch activates. Read more on happiness.org

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Open Call: Kintsugi – Powerful Stories of Healing Trauma

plush-teddy-bear-1082525_1920Open Call: Kintsugi – Powerful Stories of Healing Trauma

This is SinCyr’s first nonfiction open call! For this collection, we’ve decided to call it Kintsugi, named after the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold or other fine materials. The idea is to take something shattered or cracked and turn it into a piece even more beautiful than before.

What we’re looking for:

Personal stories about healing trauma. For some of you, writing this piece may be your first step to healing. For others, you may have come through great amounts of abuse and found your agency and joy. These stories will vary because abuse varies. How it affects us varies. Because the company is focused on shifting rape culture, body shaming, toxic masculinity and so forth, the stories should fit somewhere into these categories.

Were you sexually abused? Body shamed? Harassed and bullied for your sexuality or gender? The victim of abused power? Did the abuse cause difficulty in maintaining healthy relationships? How has the abuse affected you sexually and how have you healed? Found your joy? Or are you taking that first step to healing right now by writing for this collection?

Transformation is beautiful. Sharing your story is powerful.

Here are some vital details to remember when writing for and submitting to this collection:

  • These stories should focus on healing from abuse. Sharing abuse is necessary to illustrate what you’ve overcome, but we’d like the focus to be on the healing and not the trauma itself. If this is your first step to healing, you might share how you came to accept what happened or what you plan to do to move forward now that you’ve shared and started down the path of healing.
  • For liability reasons, please don’t call out specific people for their abuse. Keep it vaguer. We can’t print anything that calls out someone in too much detail. This includes mental health, as it’s not ethical to print other’s mental illness details. There is also the option of pen names or Jane Doe One, John Doe Five, etc…
  • Polished stories only. Make sure your story is clean. Follow the submission guidelines for formatting.

Submission Guidelines:

  • 12pt font, Times New Roman
  • Double Spaced, no extra line between paragraphs
  • Do not hit the “tab” key to indent paragraphs. Use Word’s margins/ruler to indent.
  • Send in Word doc or rtf. Word is preferred.

Word count: 1000-5000 words
One story submission per person.
Submission Deadline: October 31, 2017

Editor Sienna Saint-Cyr

Send submissions to sincyr.submissions@gmail.com with the subject line KINTSUGI: your title.

Payment – 60% of net royalties split between authors.

“Shifting rape culture one sexy story at a time.”

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What We See Is About Us

Focusing on my responses to others rather than their behavior has shifted a lot for me. It’s allowed me to be around people that I’d not have been comfortable with prior. I’d likely have had a panic attack in the past. Yet I haven’t. I’ve stayed in my place of calm instead.

Sticking to this method has also helped me in seeing that the things others assume, feel, or say aren’t about me. While I knew this to an extent, I’m really feeling it now. Rather than feel hurt by others, I’m feeling empathy for them instead. When I’m no longer seeing myself as their target–but instead, them as their unconscious target–I feel for them.

I know this is something we all have to learn. Everyone projects. It’s how we cope when we can’t face the truth about ourselves. We push it outward and assume others are doing what we’re doing (even if we’re in a state of denial about it). It’s a human condition.

Until we choose to leave it, that is.

Facing our own shortcomings isn’t easy. Understanding and embracing responsibility for our lives and where we’re at is rough. Necessary, but hard. But it’s doable.

I’m glad I’ve learned these lessons. Things that have been occurring would normally shut me down and I’d retreat. Hide, silo, withdraw and feel like a victim all while simultaneously assuming all was somehow my fault because people wouldn’t treat others like shit without a reason. Right…?

I’m so glad I’m past that nonsense!

Because of where I’m at, I’ve been able to stand taller and embrace myself on a deeper level. I’ve gotten back to my yoga practice. I’m not in constant physical pain. I have excitement and enthusiasm about things to come.

I’m also taking up the space I need to. I’ve been told this is me owning my woman’s estate. While this place wasn’t comfortable before, it’s becoming the only place I feel good, free, and present.

It’s getting easier to be in the moment. I’ve got no interest in dwelling in the past. And that includes yesterday.

This might seem strange but being in the moment has served me better than anything else when it comes to the PTSD because trauma and PTSD are all about living in the past. That’s what it is. Post traumatic stress disorder. The ‘post’ portion means I am no longer there. Yet for so long I felt trapped there.

That was an illusion though. I am here. In the now. So much so that writing this has been difficult because everything I write is about these last couple of weeks. It’s not easy to put myself there for the sake of writing about it. I’ve deleted at least ten versions of this now.

But this is something I want to say. This is important to me. Because I feel that if we can get to a place of being present and understanding that others issues are not about us, then we won’t fight so much. We won’t put one another down. Or assume or project. We won’t try to shame one another because we’d see that we are not others and what others do isn’t about us.

When we treat others poorly all that does is show others how we see ourselves.

As I was writing this, I was notified that someone posted a nasty comment on a Facebook post I’d made. The woman said my video would give her nightmares. I knew, of course, her response had nothing to do with me or the person in the video. It had everything to do with her.

I removed her comment as I don’t want that to occupy my space and I am posting the video above to illustrate what I’m saying. Where she saw something horrific, I saw beauty. Which says a lot about who she and I are.

Our responses are about us.

What do you see?

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Flourishing and Bliss

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Life has been really great. There are so many things I’m doing and I wouldn’t be able to do them if I’d not been doing my internal work. Even a year ago, when I had to suddenly take a day job, I remember being terrified. My anxiety was sky high, and I really struggled. I didn’t think I could do it.

But I kept trying. I kept doing my internal work too. Because I didn’t stop or give up, I’m in a very different place now. One where I’m filled with excitement and anticipation when I go to work. Or when I take on a new project. Even when I realize there’s another trigger to face. All of it–all of life–is exciting.

I’ve got some great role models around me too. Some fantastic people that don’t just talk or make excuses, they desire to change and they implement that change. Just like that. No self-shaming, no self-loathing, just a, “I’d like to start doing x,” then they do it. I’m fortunate to have such good people around me.

So again, life has been great. Busy, yes, but so good.

I’m in another growth phase. I see my next set of goals and I’m moving toward them. I don’t understand how I got stuck for so long. So many years in the same spot, making excuses for why I couldn’t do something, or achieve something, why I wasn’t good enough, and so on.

I was certainly stuck. Unable to grow, move forward, or live the life I wanted to live. I couldn’t function in the world and all of that’s changed.

Some people like where they are. They don’t want to change things or grow. They are content with their life. Or at least comfortable enough that even if they wanted change, it isn’t worth the work they’d need to put in to change it. And that’s okay, for them.

Not for me.

I wanted more. I didn’t want to just function in the world, I wanted to flourish. So I keep trying, keep doing my work, keep pushing forward when life gets intense and I want to run away or hide. And the more I allow myself to grow, the more I nurture my needs and flourish.

Growth and personal accountability are hot. When we can look inward, admit we don’t like something about ourselves, then change, that’s pure beauty…

Now, when I wake up in the morning, I wake knowing that I’m living the life I want to live. That makes each day exciting and something to look forward to. It means each day is an opportunity to feel bliss and be grateful.

Life is good.

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Swinging for Beginners viat fuck.com

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Swinging for beginners

The swing lifestyle isn’t just about partner swapping. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. Sometimes swinging is simply having sexual encounters with someone other than your primary partner, and this is where my current draw is. Read more on fuck.com.

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Yoga for Happiness 1/3: Compassion Yoga via Happiness.org

Screen Shot 2017-07-16 at 12.45.45 PMYoga has helped me a lot in my physical, mental, and emotional health. For those that haven’t tried it, this series of articles I’m doing is a great place to start. There are links to the free YouTube videos in the articles!

The first practice I tried was called “Compassion Yoga – Yoga With Adriene”. Some of her videos, including the one above, are free on YouTube. This is a fifty-eight-minute video surrounding compassion. Since the instructor has the practitioners set their intentions, I set mine for self-compassion. TO READ MORE, CLICK HERE.

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